"What’s been your greatest accomplishment?"
"Keeping in touch with distant friends and relatives."
"Why is that important?"
"It’s important to always have people who remember you at various stages of your life. It’s especially important as you get older, because there are less of those people around. And they remind you who you are."
Slurs are not oppressive because they are offensive, they are oppressive because slurs by nature of being slurs draw upon certain power dynamics to remind their target of his/her/their vulnerability in a certain relation to power and as an extension of that, to threaten violence and exploitation of that vulnerability.
I’m sick of white people using the illusion of “reverse racism”. That’s why when a minority stands up for themselves and challenges your level of comfort, there is an uproar. When in fact, we live in a permanent state of discomfort so that you can relish in your comfort. But no more, we’re all equal despite any race, gender, sexual orientation or any other category constructed by society to uphold this illusionary hierarchy. It’s not a fight to the top, it’s just about being on equal playing fields.